We have been hearing the term “Good Vibes” way before the Beach Boys sang about it in 1966. The Hippies and people who are part of New Age, surf, and bohemian culture popularized the saying.
This expression of positive feelings or hope from a person or environment, and the opposite, Bad vibes, a common negative counterpart rings true. We all emit an emotional and spiritual vibration that is picked up by those around us. A vibration is a state of being, it’s the atmosphere, or the energetic quality of a person, place, thought, or thing. Imagine yourself as a tuning fork.
When a stranger walks into the room, you intuitively pick up their “vibe” and can tell their energy. This vibe makes you want to get to know the person or avoid them.
If you focus on the positive, you will attract. It is all part of The Law of Attraction. It is based on the belief that thoughts are a form of energy and that positive energy attracts success in all areas of life, including health, finances, and relationships. There are things we all can do to rewire our brains and shift the trajectory of our lives. One of them is positive thinking. There is a theory that whatever you start to focus on will manifest in your life.
One of the most important things you can do toward a positive life is to learn Self-Love. This is learning to accept yourself fully, treat yourself with kindness and respect, and nurture your growth and wellbeing. It is all about how you treat yourself as well as your thoughts and feelings about YOU.
Examples of self-love would be:
- Saying positive things to yourself
- Noticing your progress and effort
- Setting realistic goals
- Being assertive-don’t let others take advantage of or abuse you?
- Taking care of your health and wellbeing
- Spending time around people who support you and build you up.
- Avoiding people who make you feel bad.
- Asking for help
- Letting go of grudges or anger that holds you back.
- Recognizing your strengths
- Valuing your feelings
- Pursuing your interests and goals
- Challenging yourself
- Holding yourself accountable
- Accepting your imperfections
When you learn to love and respect yourself, you change your vibe. You walk into a room proud and confident, and the world around you will see that and feel your positive vibe. Essentially, you want to emulate the person who you want to be with. Visualize the best friend you have always wanted and strive to be like that. You will be teaching yourself to be someone you and others admire and embrace those qualities. People who love themselves in a healthy way know that they are still human and flawed, will make mistakes, and they accept and care about themselves despite their imperfections.
There is a big difference between self-love and being a narcissist. Narcissists believe they’re better than others and won’t acknowledge or take responsibility for their mistakes and flaws. They also seek extraneous amounts of external validation and recognition. Narcissists also lack empathy for others.
This is not who you want to be. Need a helping hand on discovering how to love and respect yourself? If you feel yourself being struggling or overwhelmed with sadness, reach out to family, friends, or professionals. You are far from alone.
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